Love Enough To Let Go

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Love Enough To Let Go

Dear sisters,

I wanted to encourage you. How many of you feel “in love” with someone, right now? How many of you have that someone love you back? And yet you both remain silent. You can't move forward for some reason or another?


Do you miss him sometimes? Do little things remind you of him....constantly? Do you sometimes sit still enough to hear the quiet...and he comes to mind?

It's okay. It's natural.


Just wanted to encourage you to be thankful to be his friend right now. To tell God so. Jesus has trusted you with this emotional journey. Thank Him for it. It is a blessing to be a godly man's friend. Even if you yearn for it to go further, be okay with where you're at. It's a privilege. Be a good friend. It may be the only thing you will ever be to this man. You might as well be faithful in it. Don't take advantage of it.

If he is a good man, he probably protects you, even from himself. He is pure and discreet and a gentleman. Even despite his own feelings. Thank the Lord for him.


Be careful for his sake. Purposefully be mindful of his feelings.
Don't be afraid to keep quiet, or to revise how you say something. Wait, listen. Tell Jesus first. Go beyond “just” appropriate. Be a sister.


If you love him, ask Jesus to teach you how to love him like He desires you to. Lift Him up before God and embrace selflessness. Desire his best. Recognize he is God's son. Love him enough to let go. Maybe someday God will grant the desire of your heart. But for now, be willing to give up the dream. That is the beginning of truly loving him. You'll be so thankful that you did.



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Post written by guest writer Rebecca Robinson.  A beautiful description on the joy of singleness!

All His Biddings are Joys

Singleness is not one of life's trials; it's not a cross to be borne. In it there is no suffering, no evil, no grief. It is not like when the man you've been married to for 20 years abandons you and your children to scurry into dark corners with sloppy wanton women. It's not like suddenly losing your child and being forced to bury them into the cold earth, with the brilliance of their life still ringing in your unbelieving retinas like a light snuffed out. 

I don't mean to minimize that truth, "each heart knows it's own bitterness," and I certainly have struggled all my life with feelings of resentment and self loathing in relation to being alone. But that's quite my point- I spent YEARS behaving in my heart and mind as though I were without something I deserved; as though I were suffering a loss. It caused me to slink into bad relationships several times, out of thirst and lack of trust. What a waste of precious time!

Elisabeth Elliot wrote, "If you are single today, the portion assigned to you for today is singleness. It is God’s gift. Singleness ought not to be viewed as a problem, nor marriage as a right. God in his wisdom and love grants either as a gift."

To be a single person who sulks about being alone and is desperate to get married is like being a child desperate to grow up because he wants to stay up as late as he feels like it and be able to buy chocolate milk whenever he wants, having no idea in his smallness just exactly what he's asking for. You'll grow up one day and realize that with all those privileges come an entire world of battle and responsibility you never imagined.

I recently realized the very sweet gift of being single. It is like sipping a cup of hot coffee early in the morning as the sky blinks it's half closed sunshining eye at you from between pink clouds. It is beautiful because it is brief, fleeting, quiet. Just you. Just the Holy Spirit. Stillness.
This is what that single season should be like. If you are constantly caterwauling about being single, or even worse, constantly reassuring everyone around you how VERY content you are (thou doth protest too much, methinks), you have become like the man who rejects the good he is given because it is not the good he had expected. You have misunderstood marriage and you have misplaced Christ as the center.

My life's ambition is to be a mother and wife- it's a beautiful adventure I long for the way some long to travel the world someday. But I am not a mother or a wife, not yet, and it is His bidding that makes it so.

All His biddings are joys.