There's a Difference
There is such a thing as being gracious and yet grieving. Being humble but acknowledging wrongs. Having mercy yet recognizing lost friendships. To let go of people who once were pillars of security, in a healthy way. To move on without reconciliation.
There's such a thing as standing firm to your conviction without pride. To warn others of “Alexanders” (2 Tim. 4:14-18) without back-biting. To disagree with authorities without being a “victim”.
AND, there's such a thing as condoning bad behavior and calling it grace. Ignoring wrongs and calling it mercy. Enabling and calling it submission. Internalizing grief and calling it forgiveness. Being bitter and saying “we just need time”. Rebelling and calling it justice.
There's a difference. James 1