Spiritual Abuse

Spiritual Lessons

Spiritual Abuse 

Part I

Abuse is common in the church house.

Yep, you heard me. There is spiritual abuse going on in the the Western Church. Truth is twisted and authority misused to support the insecurities or the power trips of church leadership. And people refuse to acknowledge it. They've been duped into a false authority that strips them of their liberty to follow Christ. They are kept in a rigid religious militia.


And how can I say this? Well, dare to question your commanding officer and watch as the labeling begins, the rebuke, the belittling, disbelief, misunderstanding... and maybe even excommunication. My experience with Pastoral dictatorship is not unique. Many know exactly what I'm talking about. For those of you who don't, I encourage you to take off your spiritual blinders and have a look around.


Are pastors the one to blame? It is certain that many promote and administrate abuse. But they are simply instruments of false Christianity. So who is to blame for the continuation of widespread spiritual abuse? Well...


Who agrees to conform? Who has pressed themselves to meet expectations? Who agrees to the check-list Christianity? Who unquestioningly grovels? Who fears men? Who gives homage to traditions? Who is obsessed with meeting the five-star Christian criteria? Who idolizes authority? Who remains silent? Who fails to draw boundaries? Who subjugates themselves to total dependence? Who swallows the idea that love forgives the non-repentant and ignores atrocities in non-judgmental, long-suffering?


WE do.


We are at fault for the continuation of false authority. If Christians would wake up and acknowledge their own apathy they could hold their pastors accountable and stop the epidemic of abusive authority. We need to bravely unchain our minds, even at the risk of rocking the boat. We need to stand up and protect ourselves, and others. Not to is selfish. If we simply leave but say nothing we are allowing abuse to continue.


The Church has alienated itself from Christ and His commandments. The body is asleep instead of harmoniously functioning. The leadership has grown fat on the sheep's unholy worship. And the lost go to Hell because Christians won't acknowledge their own sinful state.


Don't be a willing victim. Repent. Say something. Don't allow abuse. 

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Authority 

When He Says No II

Some of you may remember that a few years ago I did a post called "When He Says No". This was a post addressed to daughters uncertain of whether we should obey our fathers in certain circumstances. I feel my position has morphed over the last couple of years. I want to share with you this new insight, as well as declare how imperative it is for Christian women in their homes to understand their role as adult women in the father's house.



Our father's role.

If we are in our father's house our fathers are our earthly protectors, leaders, providers. (1 Timothy 5:8) . Our fathers are not our head. (1 Corinthians 11:3). Our husbands are. (Eph. 5:22, Col 3:18). If we do not have a husband, our head is Christ.


Our role as adult daughters.

As virtuous women we are co-laborers with our Christian brothers. We fight the same fight, press toward the same goals, share the same gospel, reach the same souls, and raise the same warriors. We women were made to co-rule, be fruitful, multiply, take dominion. Even as single women, we can serve and minister and encourage. (See why "Our Men Need Us).  The women in the bible are good examples to us of what godly womanhood looks like.


When our father asks us to stop doing something innocent.

There have been multiple times in my life where I went to my father for counsel, or my dad came to me, and he advised me to quit something I deemed innocent. How easy it is to stop a habit or hobby if proved destructive, but what about those harmless ones? What if we don't agree with his reasons?

I have found comfort in this – God often works through my Dad. It wasn't an accident that I am my father's daughter. He purposefully gave me my father as my protector. If my dad is seeking God's will, and he is striving to be the head, provider and protector God desires him to be, I can be confident that Jesus supplies him with the wisdom to know how to lead, provide and protect me.

But what if Dad is not seeking His will? What if his decision to take away something from me is based on a mere whim? What if my father is asking me to practice something against my convictions? What if he asks me to stop practicing my convictions? What then?

Here is where we Christian daughters grow uncertain. I honestly think this comes from lack of understanding in our position as adults, and also a misrepresentation of authority taught in the church.

Many times (even most of the time) I will choose to follow my Dad's advice. Even if I don't understand. I trust his judgment. Even if I have to sacrifice something I really love and enjoy. I trust my father. Not because he is my father, but because he is trustworthy. He not only would never want to hurt me, but he truly, selflessly, loves me. And he understands that I desire to honor him. He takes it seriously when he advises me not to do something. And when I honor him God has always worked something beautiful.

That being said, I used to believe that Dad's desires were ultimately God's desires. Otherwise God would not have allowed Dad to come to that conclusion, or ask of me such a hard thing. I also thought that God's faithfulness to me during those hard sacrifices were proof that He expected me to obey my father. God had "trusted" me with this "trial". And wasn't He big enough to work in my behalf? It seemed like the spiritual thing to do: Accept and obey. 

This simply isn't true.

Our fathers are our final authorities when we are children. This is why the Bible commands us to obey them when we are children. Of course as adults we are still to honor our parents. But honor doesn't always equal obedience. Just as disobedience is not always rebellion.

Admittedly, our fathers do have some type of authority over us as our leaders and protectors. Just as elders of the church do. Or our doctor would. Or the police officer. Our President. Our music teacher. All are “authorities” with differing amounts of authority in our life. As adults, the key is, it is limited authority. A command holds as much power as the authority who demands it. God demanding our obedience is different than if our piano teacher demanded it. Most understand this concept. But for some reason it is harder to conceive when it comes to our fathers.

We are fashioned to be led. (Genesis 2:18) It is an honor to be provided for. Cherished women are protected, and so we can welcome it. But we are not less because we are led. And we are not mindless subordinates. 

Under our father's roof we do have an obligation to abide by his decisions. It is his home and he is the head of his home. But he is still an earthly ruler. He has derived his authority from God. Only God's authority is unconditional. God's conditions to a ruler is that he “rule well” and that they obey Him. When they are contrary to God we are not to obey them. In fact, we may have to stand against them. This is how tyrants are defeated and resistance is justified.

The church does not have unlimited authority, the State does not have unlimited authority, and fathers do not have unlimited authority.


When Dad asks us to Stop doing a good thing


There were times in my life as a young child that Dad told me no, and I, unwavering, obeyed without question. Aside from when authorities ask something wrong of us, as children we must obey.

As I grew older my Dad would ask me not to do certain things. Even though an adult I misunderstood authority and obeyed, believing this was my duty. And I gave it up to the Lord and He brought about so much good in my life because it. And I am so thankful I listened to my father's good advice. Even though many times it was a major sacrifice. Did Jesus reward my actions because it was righteous to obey my authority? Or did he reward my faithfulness (in what I assumed was my duty)? I've heard over and over people try to prove that daughters (and even sons) should obey their fathers because Jesus knows best and He has blessed them for personally making that choice. I thought that way, and persuaded others with that idea as well. But, I've watched God use the all sorts of people, ways and means, that were less than perfect or right. I believe Jesus rewarded my faithfulness. I am convinced Jesus doesn't expect adults to totally submit to any authority outside of Christ. Not to doctors, professional educators, pastors, elders, men, government officials. Or fathers. Even when we submit to each other as siblings in Christ, it is not a total unquestioning surrender. The closest thing I see in the Bible to complete submission (other than Christ as our head) is the submission to our husbands. Probably because it is a picture of the Bride and Christ. But even in this, it is not quite comparable to Jesus' authority. Because He is ultimate. Autonomous. God. It is dangerous and unhealthy to give any man unconditional obedience.

Can God use our leaders and protectors to guide us? Yes. Absolutely. God has shut down “my way” on several occasions through my father's good advice. And I will be eternally thankful for it. Does it prove that God has constructed the father to be a head over his daughter? That we daughters must abide by our father's convictions and standards. No. It doesn't.

It has also been said that God is not limited or hindered by our authorities. He can move them as rivers of water. The king's heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it withersoever he will. Proverbs 21:1 . Is this true? Yes! Is this proof that we can in good conscience completely obey our authorities' every command? Only if our authorities are to always be obeyed. No exceptions. The spiritual leaders commanded that the disciples stop preaching Jesus. Did the disciples stop and say “Well, God can change their hearts...we will pray for this and obey these leaders”? No. They obeyed God as their final authority.

In my last post I asked: “What if our father asks us to stop a good ministry?” My answer was based on the idea that our father's were our authorities. That they deserved total obedience. I encouraged that God doesn't need you to minister. “He chooses human vessels to do His work, but He doesn't need you personally in that area to minister to those souls. That specific work is not reliant on you. It's His power and His timing and you're His channel. If your God-given authority has taken you out of that ministry, God will raise up another channel in which to achieve His purpose. When a door is closed Jesus always opens up another one. He will show you which good works He wants to work through you.”

I no longer agree. In fact, I passionately disagree. God has chosen to use us. Of course he doesn't need us. He created the universe, He could make all men bow down and believe too, but He doesn't. Instead He chooses to use man, even though He also allows free will. God has called us personally to certain things. Sharing Christ, teaching nations, loving our neighbor, edifying the saints, etc. Of course His Kingdom is not dependent on us. But He has chosen His message to be reliant on mankind's obedience in spreading it. Of course nature, in it's own way, speaks His glory. But nature was not commanded to be Christ-like. You were. It is true we are simply an earthen vessel. But this is no excuse for our passivity; only proof of the excellency of His power when He uses us. We have no guarantee that God will raise up another channel in our place if we fail to obey. Even if we did, this is not a cop-out for disobedience. And we cannot chalk up all “closed doors” to Jesus' will. The gates of Hell prevent us, but we are to storm them, not assume it's not God's timing just because they're closed against us.

And it is certain that we are unable to fulfill every opportunity presented to us. But we do know the good works He expects of us. So we obey. It's not an option – because unlike human authority, He's our Creator, Savior, and there is none beside Him. He is our ultimate and final authority.

Are we morally obligated to obey our fathers? No. Should we honor them? Of course. Even if it's hard? Yes. Even if they are unbelievers? Yes. What about in our relationships? Are we to obey? What if Dad says no to a beau? We honor his decision. In whatever way that God leads us to do that. It might mean stopping the relationship and praying and fasting. If we value our father's opinion and he has “red flags” than it would be naive and foolish to not heed his advice. But as an adult, our head is Christ.

We will answer to Christ for our actions. Not our fathers. And when we enable our fathers false view of authority, (by submitting to their false authority) we are doing everyone involved a disfavor. If our father has asked us to do something ungodly, or to abstain from God's commandments, we are personally sinning, and sinning against our father. We are enabling them, providing them the opportunity, and condoning their sin. This is unhealthy and unrighteous. We can hold this conviction humbly, meekly, and with grace. Righteousness is not arrogance.


When is it okay to disobey?

God is our final authority. Not man. If an authority commands us to directly disobey God, or commands us not to do something that God specifically commanded us to do, we have the moral obligation to obey God over man. (Acts 5:9).

Many times in scripture we see God's children under authorities who had no relationship with God. What we see every time is these men or woman being faithful to their earthly authorities, serving them with respect. Think of Daniel, Joseph, and David. It wasn't until their authorities asked them to disobey God that they humbly refused obedience.

In godly humility and respect and in much prayer should we ever resist an authority. I have seen it done the right way – it can be done. And God is in it and rewards them. And I've seen it done incorrectly, and there was only sorrow and pain and evilness as a result.

Conclusion

We Christian daughters are universally weak on our understanding of authority. It is imperative that we learn, because as Christians we are meant to free mankind, not to be dominated and controlled by it. False view of authority leads to man-worship and stunted Christianity, as well as sinful behavior. Freedom from this false view will change our life, which always results in the changing of other lives. 

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Garden Principles Part 1

Spiritual Lessons

Guest writer Melissa Bickish has been teaching a girls class for the past few months.  I asked if she would share her thoughts with us on Maid Arise.  I know this will be a blessing.

“A Garden Enclosed”: 

or The PROTECTED Garden.

The Lord has given me a lot of thoughts recently on gardens. I believe that the illustration of our lives being a garden or vineyard is one of His personal favorites. Spurgeon said in his book “ Evening by Evening” that “Sin ruined that fair abode of all delights( the garden of Eden) … There is another garden which the King watered with His bloody sweat- Gethsemane…. At Gethsemane, the mischief of the serpent in the first garden was undone…. This is the garden of gardens where the soul may see the guilt of sin and the power of love. My heart should also be His garden. How do the flowers flourish? Do any choice fruits appear? Does the King walk within and rest in the shelter of my spirit?...let the spices of Your garden flow abroad.” - Spurgeon

The greatest events in the history of the world were wrought in a garden! It was in a garden that the life of man first began, in a garden that sin and separation first separated us from God, it was in a garden that the struggle to submit to the plan of salvation was won, and in another that death and the grave were conquered at the resurrection. God loves gardens! He makes them all over the world, even ones that no one sees unless that happen to step into some remote glen untouched by human eye or hand. He loves beautiful things. He has a special place in His heart for gardens.

Gen 2: 8 says, “And the LORD God planted a garden..” God loves to plant gardens and vineyards and then cultivate them to be what He sees them becoming.

Joh 19:41 Now in the place where he was crucified there was a garden; and in the garden a new sepulchre, wherein was never man yet laid. Just an interesting note to think about, throughout the Bible gardens are often listed a Burial places. Sepulchres were most often found in gardens.

Kings almost always had a private garden. God just happens to have a very vast multitude of gardens. He calls Himself the Husbandman in so many verse, in other words the ‘keeper’ of the garden, the gardener if you will.

The Lord loves to take barren waste land and plots of dry ground and transform them into beautiful gardens for His own Glory.

Isa 51:3“ For the LORD shall comfort Zion: he will comfort all her waste places; and he will make her wilderness like Eden, and her desert like the garden of the LORD; joy and gladness shall be found therein, thanksgiving, and the voice of melody.”

Is. 58:11 “And the LORD shall guide thee continually, and satisfy thy soul in drought, and make fat thy bones: and thou shalt be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters fail not.

Jer. 31:12 “…and their soul shall be as a watered garden; and they shall not sorrow any more at all.”

Ezek. 36:35, “And they shall say, This land that was desolate is become like the garden of Eden; and the waste and desolate and ruined cities are become fenced, and are inhabited.”

Is 5:1, “Now will I sing to my wellbeloved a song of my beloved touching his vineyard. My wellbeloved hath a vineyard in a very fruitful hill: And he fenced it, and gathered out the stones thereof, and planted it with the choicest vine, and built a tower in the midst of it, and also made a winepress therein: and he looked that it should bring forth grapes,..”

Jesus when he walked on earth often retired to a garden, or a place alone with nature to refresh Himself. He loved gardens. John 18:1 “When Jesus had spoken these words, he went forth with his disciples over the brook Cedron, where was a garden, into the which he entered, and his disciples.”

After all, what is a garden? Webster defines it as: an enclosure, a plot of ground where herbs, flowers, fruits or vegetables are cultivated. To cultivate is: to prepare, to loosen or break up soil, to foster, to grow, improve, refine, encourage or further.

-A garden is Property:

This means they are pieces of land that belong to Someone. When we were lost the garden or plot of land in our heart belonged to us. Now that Christ has created our land, paid for our land, and redeemed our land, our garden no longer belongs to us. .It has been purchased and paid for It is His garden, His fruit, His place to abide.

S.S 6:2 and 11 “My beloved is gone down into his garden, to the beds of spices, to feed in the gardens, and to gather lilies…. I went down into the garden of nuts to see the fruits of the valley, and to see whether the vine flourished, and the pomegranates budded.”

Our hearts are God’s little plot of land to be grown, encouraged and furthered in order to bring forth something useful. He considers this to be one of the most beloved of His walking places.

The Lord is the dweller of our garden. We are to be enclosed from the things outside and ‘shut up’ to His own personal Presence. God delights in walking though His garden, talking to His plants and personally cultivating us! We are HIS garden.

Francis Ridley Havergal says in her book, “kept for the master’s use.” That we are like a plot of land that needs care.

“ Suppose you make over a piece of ground to another person. You give it up, then and there, entirely to that other; it is no longer in your own possession; you no longer dig and sow, plant and reap, at your discretion or for your own profit. His occupation of it is total; no other has any right to an inch of it: it is His affair thenceforth what crops to arrange for and how to make the most of it. But His practical occupation of it may not appear all at once. There may be waste land which He will take into full cultivation only by degrees, space wasted for want of draining or by over-fencing, and odd corners lost for want of enclosing; because of hedgerows too wide and shady, and trees too many and spreading, and strips of good soil trampled into uselessness for want of defined pathways. Just so it is with our lives. The transaction of , so to speak, making them over to God is definite and complete. But then begins the practical development of consecration. And here He leads on softly, according as the children be able to endure…And so, season by season, we shall be sometimes not a little startled, yet always very glad, as we find that bit by bit the Master shows how much more may be made of our ground, how much more He is able to make of it than we did; and we shall be willing to work under Him and do exactly what He points out, even if it comes to cutting down a shady tree or clearing out a ditch full of pretty weeds and wild-flowers. “

- Protected (or Enclosed).

Malachi 3:11 “And I will rebuke the devourer for your sakes, and he shall not destroy the fruits of your ground; neither shall your vine cast her fruit before the time in the field, saith the LORD of hosts.” This one is a BEAUTIFUL thought. God hedges us in and protects our ‘tender grapes’ from the foxes of this world and Satan! Here He says He will keep us protected from the ‘spoiler’. God never allows anything to touch your garden that isn’t His will for your garden. If you ‘wall’ is under siege by Satan, rest assured, God hasn’t left you undefended. He always takes care of his own.

Let’s read from Song of Solomon Chapter 4 verses 9 through 5:1.

“Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck. How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices! Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon. A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed. Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard, Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices: A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon. Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.”

Verse 12 calls His beloved “A garden inclosed, a spring shut up and a fountain sealed.” I want to talk about the meaning of this in the garden of our hearts.

A. We are to be protected in purity! We do have the ability to open this wall, tear it down, or unlock this gate and allow impure thoughts to enter… thereby ‘cheating’ upon our gardener. We sometimes willingly allow these ‘foxes’ of IMAGINATION to damage our tender grapes and destroy the small plants by digging at their roots. I recently researched what Foxes actually do to grapevines due to curiosity about the verses about “little foxes” spoiling the vines. This is what I found out.

Foxes or little foxes could also be jackals. Foxes destroy vines by…

“…gnawing the branches, biting the bark, making bare the roots, devouring the ripe grapes… jackals eat only grapes, not the vine flowers; but they need to be driven out in time before the grapes are ripe.”

This reference is talking about both when the grapes are RIPE and when they are still TENDER… meaning not yet ripe. The Foxes destroy the plant itself, damaging the ability to produce fruit… and when there is fruit it also consumes it. Jackals don’t destroy the vine, but eat all the fruit.

I want to talk about the importance of being an Enclosed Garden when you are younger. The habits you form before you become a woman help you in continuing in these habits of purity whenever you are faced with strong physical temptations. The older you grow the stronger the natural desire for human love grows. Beginning at a young age in casting down imaginations can make a HUGE difference when there is ‘fruit’ at stake.

What does a garden that is enclosed look like? Webster defines being Enclosed as: to close in, surround, to fence off for individual use, to hold in, or confine. For some reason when I read this definition my heart doesn’t like the sound of being confined, or restrained… or what might feel lonely. The Lord doesn’t view our garden this way though. In the Bible He calls us His beloved. When we are enclosed FROM the world and harms and enclose TO Him in safety. God’s rules are never to harm us, they are always to protect us. When He thus mentions “evil imaginations” and “falsehoods” or things that aren’t true: we know that these are not acceptable because they can harm us. Jer. 13:10, 25 and 10:14 say…

“This evil people, which refuse to hear my words, which walk in the imagination of their heart, and walk after other gods, to serve them, and to worship them, shall even be as this girdle, which is good for nothing….thou hast forgotten me, and trusted in falsehood….every founder is confounded by the graven image: for his molten image is falsehood, and there is no breath in them.”

The Lord rebukes Israel as a nation over and over for the evil imaginations of their own hearts. This is where the rubber-meets-the-road so to speak about purity. None of us ever intend to actually physically LOSE our purity, but do we truly guard it in all areas? Are we just as convicted from a frivolous, untrue thought that is ‘romantically based’ as we would blush to think of the actual act of love? They are truly the beginning, the ‘tender grapes” if you will, or our heart’s imaginations. We are to have our minds submitted to Chrsit! This is the purity-war-zone… the battle is fought and LOST or WON in your mind first before it ever moves to actions. God requires purity of heart, and thought, not just action. He knows better than we do, how our thoughts affect and lead to actions. If you are thinking how un-contented you are with being single, it will affect your actions.. you may notice shortness of temper, irritability, and outward actions that symbolize a deeper heart issue… it is the same with purity. Before you would ever actually sin physically in impurity, you will think a ‘romantic’ thought that Satan convinces us in ‘enjoyable’ and ‘harmless’. These thoughts are not harmless! They have an affect. If nothing else they will make you un-content that your Gardener hasn’t decided that you are ready to be joined to someone else’s garden yet. These are SERIOUS issues. In Song of Solomon there is ONE verse that is REAPEATED over and over again.

It says ” I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.” (S.s.2:7, 3:5, and 8:4)

Why would the Lord repeat this same verse to the DAUGHTERS ( the unmarried single women) of Jerusalem 3 times if it wasn’t important. To “Stir up” implies a purposeful, curiosity and intentionally awakening something that is to remain dormant and or asleep. The Greek word carries a connotation of ‘WHY” stir up? What good will it do? Also in Song of Solomon we find the principle of the younger woman’s purity carrying her through her later years.

S.S. 8:6-10

“Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. Many waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.We have a little sister, and she hath no breasts: what shall we do for our sister in the day when she shall be spoken for?If she be a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver: and if she be a door, we will inclose her with boards of cedar.I am a wall, and my breasts like towers: then was I in his eyes as one that found favour.”

This is a perfect example of a younger women and how her desire for purity is protected. Her FAMILY was a part of protecting her. In verse 9 If she is only a wall, we’ll enclose it all the way around… if she be but a door… we’ll frame it. It shows a joint protection. She is a wall, she is trying to guard herself and needs to be surrounded completely around by safety. If she is a door and trying to block out the world and it’s impure ways then we’ll help by building a frame. Look at verse 10… It is a joyful declaration of being a WALL when we are older. We have practiced at a younger age this casting down imaginations and it has lead us to be Wall of strength for purity when we are older. The same DESIRE for purity in her youth held her through her days of temptations. And because of this she has found favor in the eyes of her beloved. Are you keeping yourself pure for your future husband or for Christ???

Stir not up… but what if they are ‘stirred up’ and I struggle with this feeling of wanting to be loved, cherished, kissed, held, by a man? Let me just say you are NORMAL! Just because we are not to purpously awaken these desires for physical love, does not mean that we won’t ever have any. As a matter of fact we all do! You aren’t alone if you’ve ever had this desire. It is truly more than a desire, it is a natural, God-given instinct to be loved this way. We are created with it built into who we are. The truth is that this natural, God-given instinct needs to be submitted, surrendered and given back to the one who gave it to you. It isn’t wrong…. if you’re married. However, we obviously aren’t. To desire this love outside of marriage is dangerous. The God who gave you these desires and instincts knows better than you how to deal with them. Purity is attacked, because it’s beautiful, innocent and Godly. Satan hates you for being pure!!! And if he can’t destroy you’re literal physical purity, he’ll try and destroy your purity of heart. We don’t HAVE pure hearts, instead our hearts are deceitful and wicked. They must as our garden plots be submitted and yielded to the God of all purity and entrusted to Him to be kept safe. I’d like to quote Toni Hutto here and read what she recently wrote that encouraged my heart so much.

The enemy often attacks us in places God has chosen to prove strong in. If your thought life is under attack, and your purity under siege, know that it is because God has a plan for your life... It's okay to be weak in these areas. It only means we will rely all the more readily on Someone mightier than we are!"

We are ALL weak in this area of protecting our own purity. We are ALL attacked in our purity, We ALL desire to be married and loved, We ALL struggle to surrender this are. You aren’t alone, and most certainly not left UNPROTECTED by God and your family.

C. We are to be protected by our Priest.

How do you respond whenever the Lord asks of you a higher standard in your conduct and what He allows in your life than He may ask in someone else’s life? Do you feel ‘restricted’ or do you feel ‘protected’? However you heart honestly answers this question makes a huge difference on how you will respond to the Lord. God PROTECTS us by removing IDOLS from our hearts. It is never a pleasant experience to have an idol revealed to you and be asked to let go of it altogether… however this is the primary way that Christ protects us as individuals. You may have heard people talking about how they are permitted to do things that you are not, perhaps your Keeper seems to be a very Jealous one indeed and you feel you’ve been ‘restricted’ from so many things… let me encourage your heart… you must be very precious to the Lord indeed if He is so JEALOUS over you!!!!

Deut. 5:9a “Thou shalt not bow down thyself unto them, nor serve them: for I the LORD thy God am a jealous God,..”

I’d like to talk about idols here… because these are those little “images” of the heart that truly DAMAGE our walk with God more than anything. We have idolatrous hearts by nature! We are made with the innate desire to ADMIRE and WORSHIP SOMEONE.

I want you to think about the word IDOL and divide its individual letters in your mind. An idol is an..

I-nordinate

D-egree

O-f

L-ove.

If we were to seriously get on our knees and ask that there be ‘nothing between’ our souls and our Savior we are almost always faced with something to confess, repent of and forsake!

An Idol is ANYTHING or ANYONE who has an Inordinate Degree Of Love in your heart. Idols are most easily recognized in our responses to being asked to relinquish them. They are most easily discerned whenever you FEEL THAT RELUCTANCE TO LET GO of something.

These idols can be literally anything: from a garment that you like that is ‘questionable’ as far as it’s modesty, to a man you are desperately in ‘like’ with and seem to constantly think about. I’m not saying that attraction for someone is an idol, it is when we are asked to let go of our hold over that emotion that it becomes an idol. A feeling of attraction once handed to the Lord becomes HIS PROBLEM!

Whenever you feel you are STUBBORNLY holding onto anything it is an Idol.

1 Sam. 15:23 “For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.” The proof of iniquity and idolatry is your stubborn tenacious clinging onto them. For fun I found a ‘p-word’ for stubbornness. ;)

Pertinacious: “holding firmly to an opinion or a course of action.”

Whenever you are pertinaciously clinging to something Christ has asked you to free from you are guilty of the sin of idolatry.

The only reason that the Lord desires your heart to be only, always, all for Him is because He is a Jealous God who protects His bride even whenever she accuses Him of being ‘unfair’ in the process. CHRIST ONLY EVER ASKS YOU TO GIVE UP WHAT IS NOT GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

I get this image of a garden with a wretched Thorn-bush right in the middle… and the gardener is attempting to uproot this ugly thorn bush and the whole time the garden is resisting and crying that it’s beloved and special thorn-bush be spared… He will never forcibly remove your thorn bush without your consent and yielding… Is there a bush that is prickly, harmful and painful to you that you are stubbornly refusing to allow God to uproot from your garden?

I’d like to end with the thought that the only safe IDOL you can have in your life is one that is worthy of all praise and glory. Christ can be our idol! We can worship, love and adore Him as having the first place in our heart whenever we truly believe He only ever removes what is harmful to HIS GARDEN.