Knight #5

Here is this weeks Knight.  I found this to be a blessing.  Hope it is to you as well.

To see the questions I asked these young men please see this post.

Knight #5

Age 26
It is true that a man wants his wife to be industrious. But being home or not being home is not the real question, because the woman can be industrious at home, as well as industrious outside of the home; and a woman can be as lazy at home, or outside of the home, in either case it's a matter of how industrious the girl is, not whether she's at home or not.
An industrious girl at home is especially nice because most men like a woman who has homemaking skills. That is, at least most good Christian men.

Also, I think it is good for young women to have a ministry and outreach. As in the case of you writing this book. Or outside of home as in a missions ministry. But the true test is not that one is better than the other but God's will in each case can be different for each person.
I've heard of, and known, young women that go to college (to get a bachelor degree...hee hee), but their driving motivation was not to find God's will, but a husband. A godly man wants to marry a wife who is in God's will.
A woman was never intended to go out and find a man and this is not our example in scripture. Rebecca was home and God brought her the right husband. Christ came all the way and gave everything to win His bride. The important thing is to be in God's will, seeking Him first. Then it is in His hands and it is His responsibility. He is the greatest at creating love stories. And most people don't realize how important it is to be 100% sure that you are marrying God's will for your life.

It was never a concern of mine whether I would meet my future wife if she only stayed home. Again, it goes back to a matter of whether you are going to take matters into your own hands or trust that God is big enough to work in whatever situation. He will not lead someone to stay home and then not bring them a husband because they were obedient to His will. What kind of a sick fiend do we think God is?
But again, better not to marry than to marry outside of the will of God. Husbands are a big responsibility and most are very immature. No matter how old a man is he never really grows up until married. You need to be sure that the one God has for you is the one you marry. The real trick isn't finding Mr. Right but which one is Mr.. Right. Satan always throws his best at you before you find God's best. Don't settle. Better to not be married than marry the wrong guy. Be praying for your future husband too. He needs it.
Also a few good ways to know if the one is the right Mr. Right is –
#1 if there is confusion or you're unsure, stop. Stop and stop. Don't go forward if you don't have peace. Wait. It never hurts to wait on God's will and God's timing. If there is confusion or lack of peace, it either means wrong guy, or right guy with wrong time. In either case waiting is best. Also seek council from parents and others you respect. And seek council from the ultimate counselor – God. I've had many girls that said when it was the wrong guy, the Lord didn't answer them when they would ask for guidance. There was confusion and questioning. It wasn't until after they stopped and broke it off, that they knew the answer was no. Other young ladies have waited and broken it off only to find that he was the right one.
But there is another reason for telling a guy to wait. It will show you the character of the young man when a man is told no, or not now, and gets upset and mad. Disappointed is okay, if he wasn't I'd be worried there was no affection there. His response will show the character and commitment of the man.

This question almost makes me upset. Should girls stay fit and toned, and concentrate on being beautiful? No its not true. Yes, I think sadly physical appearance is important to most men. And I don't think someone should get married where there's no physical attraction. You should like the way your spouse looks. But this is not a #1 priority. You want a man to marry you for you. Not your body. If you try to get a husband by looking beautiful, what kind of shallow guy are you going to get? You want your husband to be attracted to you yes, but if this is what you base a relationship on not only is it shallow but also temporal. It is truly a trap, because what happens when you gain weight, get stretch marks, wrinkles and grey hair? Then you will be insecure. Always striving to keep up an outward appearance which is truly vanity. Proverbs 31:30 says beauty is vain but a woman that fears the lord she shall be praised. If you want to attract a husband put on the joy of Christ! And then you will attract the right kind of man and avoid all the drama of having to beat off all the young men that are only interested in pleasing themselves. There is nothing as beautiful and downright irresistible as a young women who shines with the joy and true beauty of Christ. I've heard it said that the best beauty products are free. Smile, laugh, and oh one more thing... Christ-likeness :)

Knight #6